We have the power to bring unity or division into our family relationships…But, have you ever noticed that family relationships can be a bit complicated at times? The mix of different personalities, opinions and issues can be hard to navigate. As women, our role in the family has a strong influence on those around us. It will be positive or negative; the choice is up to us.
As moms, we want to train up our children in the ways of God from an early age (Proverbs 22:6). Some ways we do this is by teaching them to read the Bible, teaching them how to pray and by taking them to church regularly. We want to be a consistent, Godly influence on our children as we follow God ourselves!
Even our adult children are watching us and learning from our example as they discover how to depend on God for their plans and decisions in life. We want to encourage them to seek God in all areas of their lives. When our children marry, we want to respect their boundaries as they build a family with their spouse and children. It's important to give advice only when it is asked for…we know that's easier said than done!
Our extended families can become even more complex as we interact with aunts, uncles, brothers, sisters, etc. How do we keep the peace around SO many people? Let's face it: all families have conflicts occasionally.
Here are a few biblical solutions for maintaining unity in family relationships:
Recognize WHO is behind the conflicts. Ephesians 6:12 tells us that we don't fight against flesh and blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world… In other words, we often get upset with people, but Satan is the one who wants to separate and divide. It is a spiritual battle we are in.
Humble yourself. The Bible tells us to avoid disputing and complaining (Phil. 2:14). Sometimes we need to agree to disagree!
Don't be easily offended. Avoid being led by your feelings and emotions. Don't be offended by other's opinions or harsh words. We don't want to give Satan a foothold in our relationships by falling into his traps.
Be the peacemaker. Learn to settle matters quickly and then move on. Ask God to give you love, even for the difficult people in your family. Remember that love covers a multitude of sins (1 Pet. 4:8)
We want to enjoy our families and enjoy our life as well! Look for the GOOD in others and you will bring joy into your life as a result!
As you spend quiet time with the Lord this week reflecting on building unity in YOUR family, ask yourself the following questions:
How would you describe your influence on your family members?
What are some ways that you are training up your children in the ways of God? Do you need to make any adjustments in this area?
How do you deal with your extended family?
What can you learn about avoiding strife when it arises?
Let's learn to view ALL people as God does: Valued, loved and precious. Let's make every effort to have a GODLY influence in our homes and in our families!
